She was in Hawaii on vacation, when it clicked. She said “I realized I needed to hire you.”
There was something about the space, the quiet mornings, the way the ocean slows you down. She finally had room to think. About her health. Her energy. Her business. But also about her life. What she was modeling. What actually matters to her.
And then she said something I’ve heard before, but it never loses its weight.
“I realized I’m the matriarch. They’re all watching me.”
That landed. Because she’s not the first woman I’ve worked with who’s had that realization.
Years ago I had a client I always called the matriarch of Toronto. Anne. Graceful. Strong. Admired by her kids, her grandkids, her husband. The kind of woman other women watch. The kind that quietly holds everything together. And everyone else feels it.
The truth is, that’s the kind of woman I coach.
The matriarchs.
The ones with wisdom. Presence. All eyes on them. Women who don’t need a spotlight to be leaders, they just are.
So when this new client said it on our discovery call, I got it. She wasn’t saying it from ego. She was speaking from clarity. From the kind of self-awareness that comes when you stop distracting yourself and finally ask, what do I really want?
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That’s how it happens with my women. They know. They don’t need to be talked into anything. They’ve done the dabbling. They’ve tried piecing it all together. And then one day they wake up and realize it’s time to move.
She said, “I really thought I’d figure it out eventually. But I don’t want to do this alone anymore.”
That is the shift. Because smart, powerful, self-respecting women do not waste time.
They get support. They move fast. And everything changes for them, from there.
Sonja, xo
